Code to Joy Joins “Psychology Today”

May 15th, 2012

What is a microtrauma?

What blocks us from fully realizing the happiness of which we’re capable?

What is the composition of the “fog of distress” that impedes our vision and distorts our view of the world around us?

The answers (or at least, the beginnings of answers) to these and other questions are found in a new blog that premiered this month at the web site of Psychology Today, the forty-five-year-old journal of popular psychology, hosted by … (may we have a drum roll, please?) …

— our own Peter Lambrou, coauthor of Code to Joy!

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Feel free to visit, comment, “Like,” “StumbleUpon,” tweet, and such.

The good doctor will be posting more at the esteemed site in weeks to come! (If you want to subscribe via RSS just to Peter’s posts at his new PsychToday blog, click here.)

A Navy SEAL in Times Square

May 14th, 2012

I’ll bet you’ve been wondering, “How can I quaff a pint of Guinness and have some truly excellent food, and take in some seriously authentic Irish-pub atmosphere Big Apple–style — all while having my favorite Navy SEAL sniper signing me copy of his memoir?”

Well, have I got the answer for you!

OLunneys1If you happen to be in New York City for Memorial Day weekend, here’s an event you do not want to miss. On Friday, May 25, Brandon Webb is going to be at O’Lunney’s Times Square Pub, 145 West 45th Street (between 6th and 7th Avenues), from 3 pm through 7 pm, signing copies of our New York Times bestseller, The Red Circle.

Seriously. It’s going to be a blast.

OLunneys3A favorite hang-out for many New Yorkers in the know, O’Lunney’s is a truly classy place. If you’re interested in staying for dinner, I suggest calling (or emailing) for reservations!

Seeing Comes First

May 6th, 2012

In 1999, I lived for a brief time in an apartment about a block from a Barnes & Noble bookstore. I used to go over there every day or two to and stand at the front racks, imagining that there was a book with my name on it right on the front table.

I would also go over to the “Inspiration & Motivation” rack in the business section where the parables were, like The One Minute Manager, and do the same thing.

You might call it, literary visualization.

When my lease was up a year later I moved on—but I kept up my regular Barnes visits. For the next few years, I kept going in and standing there, picturing my book on the racks in my head. Then, in 2005, Bob Burg and I wrote The Go-Giver. And by the early months of 2008 guess where it was?

On the “Inspiration & Motivation” rack at Barnes & Noble.

Since then, I’ve had more than a dozen titles on the Barnes & Noble shelves.

About two years ago, I started doing something new.

I started going into the supermarkets, Targets, and Wal-Marts, walking over to their bestseller racks, where they displayed the latest Dean Koontz and Stephen King blockbusters, Stephanie Plum and Jack Reacher thrillers, Harry Potter and Breaking Dawn–type adventure fantasies, and whatever other slim handful of bestselling titles they were carrying at the moment, and — you guessed it — picturing my book sitting there on that rack.

I had no idea what specific book that might possibly be. Just pictured it being there.

And here we are today: The Red Circle is on the racks at Stop & Shop supermarket …

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… and at Target …

TRC at Target

… and at Wal-Mart!

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Man, that human imagination thing … it’s something, isn’t it?

Quotes and Truths

May 5th, 2012

A friend just sent me a copy of a book entitled Attitude Is Everything, by Jeff Keller. The subtitle reads, “Change Your Attitude … Change Your Life!” and the book’s introduction leads off with this famous quotation:

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” — William James

… And right there, the author lost me.

Now, I don’t know Mr. Keller, nor anything about him, and have not yet read any further in his book (which I do intend to do at some point). And I have no doubt that he has much wisdom, experience, and value to offer the reader. What’s more, I strongly think the core idea contained within the twenty words of that famous quotation are wise indeed, and I agree with it completely.

It’s just that William James never said it.

At least, not as far as I’ve been able to determine … and I’ve tried. Oh, how I’ve tried.

I recently worked on a book for someone (as yet unpublished) who happens to adore that quote, and it played a significant part in the story. I was instantly suspicious: it’s a great line, but it just doesn’t sound like something an erudite nineteenth-century philosopher and Harvard professor, and the man often referred to as the “father of modern psychology,” would say.

It sounded more like something James Allen (As a Man Thinketh) or some other early twentieth-century positive-thinking, self-help writer would have said.

I started searching. And searching. And searching. This pithy quote appears in a zillion places on the Internet, frequently attributed to James, but rarely with an actual source. I did find one scholarly-seeming paper that quoted it and gave James’s The Principles of Psychology as the source, even giving a page number (290), though without identifying the edition cited.

So I bought a copy of James’s The Principles of Psychology—on Kindle, so it would be fully searchable. I fully searched it. No such passage. Nothing even close. I searched as many terms and phrases as I could think of that might express even a remotely similar concept.

Nuttin.

In my online travels I also noted that the quotation in question is even more frequently attributed to one James Truslow Adams, a turn-of-the-century amateur historian who served as U.S. delegate to the 1918 Paris Peace Talks and (amateur status notwithstanding) even earned a Pulitzer for his writing. Cool! Truslow Adams seemed like exactly the kind of writer who would say something like this.

But I struck out there, too — couldn’t find a single solid, credible Truslow Adams source for it, either.

Then I discovered that James Truslow Adams had written a biography of, guess who? Williams James. Bingo! I figured, maybe Truslow Adams, in summing up or paraphrasing something James actually had said or written at some point, wrote this line in his biography. Could that be where the whole thing started?

So I ordered a copy — long out of print, existing in hardcover only. The book finally arrived (a 1937 edition, I think it was) … and when I opened the package, I found a biography of … Henry Adams. At which point I quoted an expression which I can confidently attribute to a late-twentieth-century nuclear power plant worker named Homer Simpson:

D’oh!

And this, Dear Reader, is where I left off. I don’t know if the book was listed wrong on Amazon, or the vendor picked and packed the wrong volume in sending it to me, or what. I declared my quest over. I had a life to get back to (wife, dog, meals, interacting with the rest of humanity, those sorts of things). I ended up providing the quotation in the book and referring to it as “attributed to the Pulitzer Prize–winning historian James Truslow Adams.”

If you can find a verifiable source for the line, I’m eager to hear about it. Meanwhile, I’m adding it to my pile of excellent quotations that are, at this point, literary orphans.

Meanwhile, here’s another quotation, saying something roughly similar to the idea in James/Truslow-Adams/Anonymous’s sentence, that I can verify:

“You’ve heard the expression, ‘Go looking for trouble and that’s what you’ll find’? It’s true, and not only about trouble. Go looking for conflict, and you’ll find it. Go looking for people to take advantage of you, and they generally will. See the world as a dog-eat-dog place, and you’ll always find a bigger dog looking at you as if you’re his next meal. Go looking for the best in people, and you’ll be amazed at how much talent, ingenuity, empathy and good will you’ll find.

“Ultimately, the world treats you more or less the way you expect to be treated. … In fact, you’d be amazed at just how much you have to do with what happens to you.”

These words were spoken by the business guru Pindar, in The Go-Giver — and I know those words came from his mouth, because Bob Burg and I put them there.

The Red Circle hits the New York Times bestseller list!

April 25th, 2012

In this coming Sunday’s edition (April 29) of The New York Times, our new book The Red Circle will debut on the Times’s bestseller list at #26 in nonfiction e-books and #30 in nonfiction hardcovers.

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Champagne, sparkling cider, Kombucha, whatever … here’s to lifting a glass of your bubbly libation of choice!

A hearty and heartfelt thanks to each and every one of you who rushed out (or clicked over) to your local bookstore and grabbed a copy!

Along with the Times announcement, here’s the media rundown from the last few days:

Brandon was on MSNBC’s Dylan Ratigan Show this past Monday, April 23, where he discussed being in the caves of Afghanistan right after 9/11 and missing the birth of his first child.

There is also a lengthy, thoughtful and fascinating conversation between Brandon and Commander Ward Carroll, in this podcast on Military.com.

Addendum, later in the day:

And here’s a great (short, sweet, hilarious) endorsement that just came in from “Rad” at Airsoft.com:

Three SEALs and Bizarro-Kramer Walk Into a Bar…

April 21st, 2012

Have you ever wished you could be a fly on the wall and listen in while a group of US Navy SEAL snipers sat around talking about life as a SEAL? Now you can!

Okay, maybe you’ve never specifically had that wish. But it still makes for some pretty engaging reality television.

Brandon Webb’s enormously popular special-ops-related website (or that Webbsite?) SOFREP.com has just launched a fascinating web-based interview show, “Inside the Team Room,” featuring three Navy SEAL sniper authors: Chris Kyle (American Sniper), Chris Osman (SEALs: The Navy’s Elite Fighting Force), and Brandon (The Red Circle) himself. (If you’ve read The Red Circle, then the inimitable Osman is already familiar to you from Brandon’s story, too!)

PatRounding out the foursome is actor Pat Kilbane of Mad TV, Seinfeld (where he played Bizarro-Kramer), and Discovery’s Dark Secrets, who serves as moderator for the show.

The setting is hilarious. This is not your TV-studio, round-the-loveseats, talk-show setting. The interviews take place in a cozy booth at a well-stocked bar, and the talk is frank, unscripted, and at times unashamedly politically incorrect. (Hey, these guys are Navy SEALs, not politicians.)

Here is episode 1: “Before the Team,” with twenty-six more episodes coming in the weeks to follow on SOFREP.com.

Philosophy in a Nutshell

April 18th, 2012

I love coming up with epigraphs, those little quotes, snippets of inspirational verse, bits of lyrics, or lines from a film that authors sometimes stick up at the top of chapters, like philosophical Post-it Notes, to set a certain tone or theme.

Not all my books have epigraphs. When they do, it’s one of the most fun parts of the whole process. Hunting down just the right tidbit to kick off a chapter is like hunting for Easter eggs, and the whole vast world of human experience is up for grabs.

The Secret Language of Money starts off with a stanza from the theme from Ghostbusters, and in its fourteen epigraphs runs the gamut from Franklin Delano Roosevelt to Thoreau to Jack Benny to Donald Trump.

In Go-Givers Sell More, which is essentially a set of meditations on the lessons couched within the story of The Go-Giver, we used brief excerpts from The Go-Giver itself to serve as epigraphs for each of its thirty-one chapters.

And in Code to Joy . . . man, was this one fun. Here we went from the Apostle Paul to Obi Wan Kenobi to Tumus the Faun (from the final Narnia book) to Dicky Fox, the cheery mentor in Jerry Maguire.

I suppose if you gathered up all these epigraphs and strung them end to end, you’ve pretty much have my whole life philosophy in there somewhere.

Just to share the fun: here are the chapters of Code to Joy — together with the epigraph that opens each one.

Introduction: Stefanie’s Question

Something is not right.
— Miss Clavel, in the middle of the night, in Madeline

1. An Interview with Yourself

What do you do with the mad that you feel
When you feel so mad you could bite?
When the whole wide world seems oh, so wrong…
And nothing you do seems very right?
— Fred Rogers, on Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood

2. Seven Self-Limiting Beliefs

Who you gonna believe, me or your own eyes?
— Chico Marx, in Duck Soup

3. The Flea and the Elephant

I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do,
I do not do — but what I hate, I do.
— The Apostle Paul, in Epistle to the Romans 7:15 (NIV)

4. A Disturbance in the Force

I felt a great disturbance in the Force, as if millions of voices cried out in terror and were suddenly silenced.
— Obi-Wan Kenobi, in Star Wars

5. Your Personal Code to Joy

I think I can, I think I can …
— The Little Engine That Could

6. Anchoring

Just click your heels together three times and say,
“There’s no place like home.”
— Glinda, in The Wizard of Oz

7. Taking It to the Next Level

The further up and the further in you go, the bigger everything gets. The inside is larger than the outside.
— Tumnus the Faun, in The Last Battle, C. S. Lewis

8. A Rich Life

Hey, I don’t have all the answers. In life, to be honest,
I failed as much as I have succeeded. But I love my wife.
I love my life. And I wish you my kind of success.
— Dicky Fox, in Jerry Maguire

Conclusion: A Deeper Joy

Here comes the sun.
—George Harrison

If you were writing your life’s book, what would be some of your favorite epigraphs?

Brandon Media Roundup

April 17th, 2012

Last week I posted some of Brandon Webb’s media appearances with our new Navy SEAL sniper memoir, The Red Circle. The dude has been busy — here are some more:

Brandon appeared yesterday in a video interview on Newsmax TV, the website of Newsmax magazine, one of the nation’s most-read news sites.

Brandon was also the featured guest on a thoughtful roundtable discussion of long-term military strategy and more on Glenn Beck TV.

ABC News ran a video interview with Brandon and his buddy Jack Murphy, formerly of USASOC (U.S. Army Special Forces Command), in which Brandon talks about The Red Circle and they both talk about creating their wildly popular special forces-related website, SOFREP.com (which stands for Special Operations Forces Report).

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ABC News also ran an excellent excerpt from the book on their site “The Blotter.”

Blogger, author, and career soldier Jessica Scott posted an excellent review of the book on her blog. Jessica’s blogging from the field in Iraq in 2009 won her a spot on PBS as a commentator on tough issues facing women in war’s trenches, and she writes with heart, intelligence and insight.

He was also a guest on The Wilkow Majority and The Dennis Miller Show, both membership-only sites.

People in the media are starting to realize that this guy isn’t just someone who knows how to shoot — he has some penetrating things to say about foreign policy, the state of the world, and leadership.

No wonder I had such a good time writing a book with him!

Pratt + Assaraf

April 16th, 2012

When it rains, it pours!

A few days ago I offered up a video interview of my Code to Joy coauthor Peter Lambrou with my Flash Foresight coauthor Dan Burrus.

Today, we have the other half of the equation!

This time, I have the pleasure of presenting yet another coauthor—John Assaraf, with whom I wrote The Answer four years ago—in an interview with the other Code to Joy coauthor, Dr. George Pratt.

Last weekend George was on the radio show Coast to Coast, talking for three straight hours about his experiences and the work we detailed in Code to Joy — and within hours the book shot to #16 on the Amazon bestsellers list and #188 on the Walmart top 200 bestsellers list.

George is not only an incredibly knowledgable psychologist with cutting-edge insights into the art of happiness, he is also someone making huge difference on the planet, and is simply one of the nicest people I know.

Faithful Blog Reader, meet my friend George.

Enjoy!

Psychologist Meets Futurist

April 11th, 2012

It’s a pretty fascinating thing, to be engaged in so many different writing projects with so many different amazingly, incredibly talented and knowledgable coauthors. Most of the time, the experience is something like what I imagine it must be like to be a professional actor: inhabiting distinctly different characters, storylines, and storyuniverses, and being 100 percent absorbed in each one.

Every now and then, though, two of these worlds intersect — and when that happens, it’s an absolute blast.

Take, for instance, when my friend Dan Burrus, futurist extraordinaire and coauthor of Flash Foresight, sat down for twenty minutes with my friend Peter Lambrou, Ph.D., psychologist/entrepreneur and coauthor of Code to Joy.

It’s a rare treat to see the coauthors of such different books engaged in a conversation like this. What makes it really fun is how clearly evident is the mutual respect each has for the other’s material and expertise — as you watch the interview, it’s plain to see that they have both really read and abosrbed each other’s books, and not just skimmed them superficially (the way people sometimes do when prepping for an interview).