Heir kommt Der Go-Giver!

September 7th, 2012

In the book The Slight Edge, Jeff Olson talks about his organization’s sophisticated strategy for pre-launching their networking group in Germany many years ago. They would ask everyone they met this question:

“Know any Germans?”

So now I have a question for you:

Know any Germans?

Why do I ask, you ask?

Because, finally, after long anticipation, The Go-Giver is now officially available in Deutsch, thus making my father’s native tongue our little book’s twentieth language (if you include English, which I do).

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We did it, Pop!

Wish you were here to see it.

Best Friends

August 25th, 2012

A few weeks ago, Ana and I celebrated the fourth anniversary of our wedding day. This was not as easy as it might sound. You see, up to that point we had been batting only about .333 on anniversaries together.

We were married on August 8, 2008 (8-08-08), under dramatically tumultuous skies, surrounded by a congregation of dear friends. As you can see (if you click and scroll down).

We honeymooned here. (And here.)

Have been blissfully wedded best friends ever since. (We were already best friends, but it was delicious to add in the wedded part.)

Our first anniversary, 8-08-09, we were on opposite sides of the planet.

Our second anniversary, we made it: 8-08-10, together and celebrating.

Our third anniversary, 8-08-11 — oops. Apart again. Couldn’t be helped. On the same continent, but hundreds of miles apart. She in Florida with her mom, me in Massachuetts, with our house, dogs, and daughter. Domestic obligations. Complicated.

So we held our breath. Here came spin-the-planet-around-the-sun Number Four. 8-08-12. Would we manage to arrange ourselves this time so that we would hit that day together in the very same geographic location?

We did.

We were off the plane and driving on our way to our hotel, when I told Ana, “You know, we agreed we wouldn’t get each other any gifts this year. And I didn’t.”

“I know,” she said.

“I mean, I really didn’t. I’m not just saying that so then I can surprise you by springing something on you that you won’t expect. I truly didn’t get you any gift.”

“I know,” she said. “I didn’t either. We agreed.”

I fumbled in my computer bag.

“But I did get you a card.”

I brought out the card. Here it is:

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She glanced at it as she drove. Smiled. Reached down into the bag at her feet and pulled out an envelop.

“I got you one, too.”

She handed it to me.

Here it is:

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Later we showed our cards to a few friends. One of them took a look and said to the others, “You know, I think they’re gonna make it.”

I think so too.

Wonder where we’ll land on 8-08-13 . . .

Writing from the Inside

August 5th, 2012

The other night Ana and I drove a few hours to go hear two of the UK’s finest mystery writers, Sophie Hannah and Tana French, read from their newest novels and answer questions. They were both amazing—personable, hilarious, generous, brimming over with intriguing insights into their own processes. For me, the most illuminating moment came later, after the talks, as we filed past with newly-purchased copies for them to sign, and had the briefest chance to engage one-on-one.

Ana and I had both just discovered Tana French a few short months ago, and both fell head over heels in love with her writing.

Tana FrenchHere and there, in her novels, you come to a passage that is so transcendently powerful, time seems to stop, the storyline suspends in midair, and the writing becomes something like a prose-poem, majestically lyrical, rhapsodic, but also with the punch-packing power of a cannon shot.

After reading one of those passages, we would both feel like putting the book down and wandering about in a daze, just letting it soak in. The world would look different; it was almost as if we understood the world better, or some human-nature piece of it. Like you couldn’t go back to who you were before you read that passage.

It happens in the very opening of her first book, In the Woods, and in the very ending of her third, The Likeness, and every so often in the midst of the narrative in all of them.

For both of us, these particular passages had an impact that will never leave us. They left us gasping.

So I asked Tana about that.

“How does that work?” I asked. “Do you know you need this particular kind of passage when you reach that point, and just set about writing it? Or do bits and pieces of it come to you at odd points in the process, even way out of sequence, and you write them down and save them, knowing you’ll need them later, or insert them earlier?”

“This is going to sound something like synesthesia,” she said, and it felt like even as she spoke, she was working out exactly how to explain something she’d wondered about herself.

“I’ll say this, I know that something needs to happen.”

Something. I totally got it. There was so much freight in that word. Something … like something big, too big for words, or at least, too big for easy words and quick description. Something that’s going to take great care in the translation of it into words. (It reminded me a little of that great phrase of John Irving’s, from A Widow for One Year, “It was the sound of something trying not to make a sound.”)

“… I know that something needs to happen,” Tana was saying, “and that it has a certain shape.”

It’s not, “I know this has to happen to that character,” or, “we have to set the mood and establish the place,” or, “we need a plot twist / to pick up the pace / something shocking.”

No. It’s more vague than that, and at the same time more important than that. Something needs to happen, and it has a certain shape — a feel, a weight, a depth. It has a not-yet-defined significance. I don’t yet know what it looks like, sounds like, or reads like on the outside … but I know what the inside of it feels like.

“So,” Tana went on, “I’ll store up pieces of it, sometimes it’s no more than adjectives. Yeah?”

That’s not verbatim what she said, but close, and while she said a bit more after that, I don’t remember the rest. She’d already said enough. That captured it perfectly.

This lady writes about things from the inside of them. The reason you can tell that’s so is that when you read it, that’s where it lands.

P.S. synesthesia: the production of a sense impression relating to one sense or part of the body by stimulation of another sense or part of the body. Like when you hear a smell, or feel a sound.

When you come down to it, isn’t all writing synesthesia?

Back to the Machete

August 3rd, 2012

I’m writing a book. Have been for weeks.

Up until today, it’s felt like I was wielding a machete, hacking my way through gigantic hostile jungle plants as I made my way deeper and deeper into a dark, unknown forest.

I’ve had the strong sense that I’m headed somewhere, but it’s more a matter of faith than knowledge. I think I’m headed in the right direction. But there is no sensory feedback to corroborate that sense.

In fact, the further I hack my way in, the darker it gets, the deeper, and the more I have to hang onto the Ariadne-thread of faith and the blind conviction that, because I’ve done this before and it’s worked, surely to God it’ll work again this time. At least I hope so.

Until today.

Today I swung the mental machete for hours, sitting at my desk, pacing my home office, gazing out at the garden, the treeline and meadow beyond, the distant ring of mountains, none of it offering a clue as to what I should be pecking onto my laptop keyboard. Must have been eight times, maybe ten (maybe fifty) that I said, “Okay, enough for today, I should pay bills … catch up on email … write a blog post … find some laundry to fold.”

But I knew it was only the seduction of faux ennui, the mental lactic acid buildup that comes from genuine neural effort.

And then, the foliage broke.

By the time I finally quit, to go meet up with Ana and take her to dinner at our favorite place, for the first time (on this project) I felt I wasn’t any longer hacking my way into the jungle, but starting, just starting, to hack my way through it. Not like I can see any sunlight on the far side, not yet. But at least the deep mottled green isn’t getting any darker.

Maybe even a bit lighter.

I head out to dinner, expecting that I’ll feel exhausted. Instead, I feel only exhilarated.

Ahh.

Putting Afghanistan in the Red Circle

May 27th, 2012

Something interesting is happening.

This guy who trained snipers? His ability to put things squarely in the crosshairs — to focus on an issue with that signature intensity and clarity of concentration we dubbed the red circle — is gaining attention beyond the narrower confines of his nominal expertise.

SOFREP-MSNBC-660x320Commentators in the media are starting to turn to him for his perspective on larger issues.

Like foreign policy. Like, for instance, whether what we’re doing in Afghanistan makes sense, and if so, why, and if not, why not.

One thing I’ve found so refreshing about working with Brandon is his common sense — for example, when it comes to political matters. Here’s what he says in The Red Circle:

“In political matters I have always been a down-the-middle-line person.

“When it comes to leaders, I care less about their party affiliation and more about their character and competence. I don’t care how they would vote on school prayer, or abortion, or gay marriage, or gun laws. I want to know that they know what the hell they’re doing, and that they are made of that kind of unswerving steel that will not be rattled in moments that count, no matter what is coming at them. I want to know that they won’t flinch in the face of debate, danger, or death.

“I want to know that they excel at what they do.”

So to tell you the truth, it comes as no surprise to me that pundits from both sides of the political aisle are interested in Brandon’s view of things.

Here is an interview he did a few days ago on MSNBC’s Dylan Ratigan show in which they discussed the Afghanistan situation.

Regardless of where you happen to stand on issues of U.S. military involvement in foreign engagements, it’s worth taking the few minutes (and enduring the rather eye-glazing double-talk of the show’s other guest) to hear what he has to say.

Visit msnbc.com for breaking news, world news, and news about the economy

Code to Joy Joins “Psychology Today”

May 15th, 2012

What is a microtrauma?

What blocks us from fully realizing the happiness of which we’re capable?

What is the composition of the “fog of distress” that impedes our vision and distorts our view of the world around us?

The answers (or at least, the beginnings of answers) to these and other questions are found in a new blog that premiered this month at the web site of Psychology Today, the forty-five-year-old journal of popular psychology, hosted by … (may we have a drum roll, please?) …

— our own Peter Lambrou, coauthor of Code to Joy!

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Feel free to visit, comment, “Like,” “StumbleUpon,” tweet, and such.

The good doctor will be posting more at the esteemed site in weeks to come! (If you want to subscribe via RSS just to Peter’s posts at his new PsychToday blog, click here.)

A Navy SEAL in Times Square

May 14th, 2012

I’ll bet you’ve been wondering, “How can I quaff a pint of Guinness and have some truly excellent food, and take in some seriously authentic Irish-pub atmosphere Big Apple–style — all while having my favorite Navy SEAL sniper signing me copy of his memoir?”

Well, have I got the answer for you!

OLunneys1If you happen to be in New York City for Memorial Day weekend, here’s an event you do not want to miss. On Friday, May 25, Brandon Webb is going to be at O’Lunney’s Times Square Pub, 145 West 45th Street (between 6th and 7th Avenues), from 3 pm through 7 pm, signing copies of our New York Times bestseller, The Red Circle.

Seriously. It’s going to be a blast.

OLunneys3A favorite hang-out for many New Yorkers in the know, O’Lunney’s is a truly classy place. If you’re interested in staying for dinner, I suggest calling (or emailing) for reservations!

Seeing Comes First

May 6th, 2012

In 1999, I lived for a brief time in an apartment about a block from a Barnes & Noble bookstore. I used to go over there every day or two to and stand at the front racks, imagining that there was a book with my name on it right on the front table.

I would also go over to the “Inspiration & Motivation” rack in the business section where the parables were, like The One Minute Manager, and do the same thing.

You might call it, literary visualization.

When my lease was up a year later I moved on—but I kept up my regular Barnes visits. For the next few years, I kept going in and standing there, picturing my book on the racks in my head. Then, in 2005, Bob Burg and I wrote The Go-Giver. And by the early months of 2008 guess where it was?

On the “Inspiration & Motivation” rack at Barnes & Noble.

Since then, I’ve had more than a dozen titles on the Barnes & Noble shelves.

About two years ago, I started doing something new.

I started going into the supermarkets, Targets, and Wal-Marts, walking over to their bestseller racks, where they displayed the latest Dean Koontz and Stephen King blockbusters, Stephanie Plum and Jack Reacher thrillers, Harry Potter and Breaking Dawn–type adventure fantasies, and whatever other slim handful of bestselling titles they were carrying at the moment, and — you guessed it — picturing my book sitting there on that rack.

I had no idea what specific book that might possibly be. Just pictured it being there.

And here we are today: The Red Circle is on the racks at Stop & Shop supermarket …

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… and at Target …

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… and at Wal-Mart!

TRC at Walmart

Man, that human imagination thing … it’s something, isn’t it?

Quotes and Truths

May 5th, 2012

A friend just sent me a copy of a book entitled Attitude Is Everything, by Jeff Keller. The subtitle reads, “Change Your Attitude … Change Your Life!” and the book’s introduction leads off with this famous quotation:

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” — William James

… And right there, the author lost me.

Now, I don’t know Mr. Keller, nor anything about him, and have not yet read any further in his book (which I do intend to do at some point). And I have no doubt that he has much wisdom, experience, and value to offer the reader. What’s more, I strongly think the core idea contained within the twenty words of that famous quotation are wise indeed, and I agree with it completely.

It’s just that William James never said it.

At least, not as far as I’ve been able to determine … and I’ve tried. Oh, how I’ve tried.

I recently worked on a book for someone (as yet unpublished) who happens to adore that quote, and it played a significant part in the story. I was instantly suspicious: it’s a great line, but it just doesn’t sound like something an erudite nineteenth-century philosopher and Harvard professor, and the man often referred to as the “father of modern psychology,” would say.

It sounded more like something James Allen (As a Man Thinketh) or some other early twentieth-century positive-thinking, self-help writer would have said.

I started searching. And searching. And searching. This pithy quote appears in a zillion places on the Internet, frequently attributed to James, but rarely with an actual source. I did find one scholarly-seeming paper that quoted it and gave James’s The Principles of Psychology as the source, even giving a page number (290), though without identifying the edition cited.

So I bought a copy of James’s The Principles of Psychology—on Kindle, so it would be fully searchable. I fully searched it. No such passage. Nothing even close. I searched as many terms and phrases as I could think of that might express even a remotely similar concept.

Nuttin.

In my online travels I also noted that the quotation in question is even more frequently attributed to one James Truslow Adams, a turn-of-the-century amateur historian who served as U.S. delegate to the 1918 Paris Peace Talks and (amateur status notwithstanding) even earned a Pulitzer for his writing. Cool! Truslow Adams seemed like exactly the kind of writer who would say something like this.

But I struck out there, too — couldn’t find a single solid, credible Truslow Adams source for it, either.

Then I discovered that James Truslow Adams had written a biography of, guess who? Williams James. Bingo! I figured, maybe Truslow Adams, in summing up or paraphrasing something James actually had said or written at some point, wrote this line in his biography. Could that be where the whole thing started?

So I ordered a copy — long out of print, existing in hardcover only. The book finally arrived (a 1937 edition, I think it was) … and when I opened the package, I found a biography of … Henry Adams. At which point I quoted an expression which I can confidently attribute to a late-twentieth-century nuclear power plant worker named Homer Simpson:

D’oh!

And this, Dear Reader, is where I left off. I don’t know if the book was listed wrong on Amazon, or the vendor picked and packed the wrong volume in sending it to me, or what. I declared my quest over. I had a life to get back to (wife, dog, meals, interacting with the rest of humanity, those sorts of things). I ended up providing the quotation in the book and referring to it as “attributed to the Pulitzer Prize–winning historian James Truslow Adams.”

If you can find a verifiable source for the line, I’m eager to hear about it. Meanwhile, I’m adding it to my pile of excellent quotations that are, at this point, literary orphans.

Meanwhile, here’s another quotation, saying something roughly similar to the idea in James/Truslow-Adams/Anonymous’s sentence, that I can verify:

“You’ve heard the expression, ‘Go looking for trouble and that’s what you’ll find’? It’s true, and not only about trouble. Go looking for conflict, and you’ll find it. Go looking for people to take advantage of you, and they generally will. See the world as a dog-eat-dog place, and you’ll always find a bigger dog looking at you as if you’re his next meal. Go looking for the best in people, and you’ll be amazed at how much talent, ingenuity, empathy and good will you’ll find.

“Ultimately, the world treats you more or less the way you expect to be treated. … In fact, you’d be amazed at just how much you have to do with what happens to you.”

These words were spoken by the business guru Pindar, in The Go-Giver — and I know those words came from his mouth, because Bob Burg and I put them there.

The Red Circle hits the New York Times bestseller list!

April 25th, 2012

In this coming Sunday’s edition (April 29) of The New York Times, our new book The Red Circle will debut on the Times’s bestseller list at #26 in nonfiction e-books and #30 in nonfiction hardcovers.

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Champagne, sparkling cider, Kombucha, whatever … here’s to lifting a glass of your bubbly libation of choice!

A hearty and heartfelt thanks to each and every one of you who rushed out (or clicked over) to your local bookstore and grabbed a copy!

Along with the Times announcement, here’s the media rundown from the last few days:

Brandon was on MSNBC’s Dylan Ratigan Show this past Monday, April 23, where he discussed being in the caves of Afghanistan right after 9/11 and missing the birth of his first child.

There is also a lengthy, thoughtful and fascinating conversation between Brandon and Commander Ward Carroll, in this podcast on Military.com.

Addendum, later in the day:

And here’s a great (short, sweet, hilarious) endorsement that just came in from “Rad” at Airsoft.com: